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Unemployed friend criticizes reader’s job

DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my best friends has been unemployed for almost a year, and is living off of unemployment checks. I casually complain to her about my job, and sheíll respond by saying that Iím not getting paid enough and she would never put herself in a position like mine. Iím annoyed because Iím…

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Couple not invited to wedding, excpeted to give gift

DEAR HARRIETTE: My wife and I recently received a note from good friends of ours stating that they are having an in-person wedding for their daughter, but because of COVID-19, we are not invited. They added that if we want to give a gift from the registry, here is the link. I thought that was…

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Girlfriend irritating partner more often

DEAR HARRIETTE: Is it normal to find yourself becoming increasingly irri- tated by your significant other? My girlfriend gets on my nerves more than usual these days. What could be the reason? Could this be a sign that we need to break up? — Always Annoyed DEAR ALWAYS ANNOYED: Whenever you notice that you are…

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Father makes plans for adult daughter

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m an adult woman, but my father still tells me what to do as if I am a child. He will promise relatives that I’m attending their events without asking me first. He is very passive aggressive and doesn’t directly ask me to do things; he will instead find a slick way to…

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Friend buddies up to former bully

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend became good friends with a girl who used to pick on me in high school. I feel a bit betrayed, even though it was so many years ago. I almost feel a bit silly that feelings are so hurt about something that happened so long ago, but it still happened. This…

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Partner is not supportive after eating disorder disclosure

DEAR HARRIETTE: I opened up to my partner about my eating disorder, and I did not get the supportive response I wanted. I have silently struggled with my eating disorder for years, so telling my partner about it was a huge deal. When I told them, their response was underwhelm- ing, to say the least.…

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Friend gets jealous about sharing attention

DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend is extremely jealous and territorial. Every time I invite her to hang out with my other friends, she gets weirdly competitive for my attention. I asked her why she acts that way, and she told me that she didn’t even notice that she was doing it. We had that conversation…

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Mother -in-law stays in toxic relationship

DEAR HARRIETTE: My mother-in-law has a boyfriend who continuously treats her like trash. She kicks him out of her home once every few months, but he always ends up back in the house — it’s a toxic cycle. It is hard for me to keep watching her take him back, but I don’t want to…

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Partner questions encouraging fiance to leave navy

DEAR HARRIETTE: My fiance hates working for the Navy, but him staying enlisted is the quickest way for us to become financially stable. We will get so many benefits just for being married. He told me that if he stays, he will stay for us. I don’t want him to be miserable at his job,…

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Chatty friend may not fit in

DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend talks way too much. I personally happen to like how much she talks, but it does make me nervous about bringing her around other people. My other friends aren’t as chatty as she is. I don’t want things to get awkward when I invite my best friend around my other…

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