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Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole

Boyfriend’s proposal steals graduation spotlight DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend of three years proposed to me at my graduation party. It was a complete surprise. While I’m thrilled that we’re now engaged, I’m a little upset that he proposed during a day that was special to me for my own reasons. I wish he had planned something completely…

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Parents arguments demoralize recent college grad

DEAR HARRIETTE: My parents are feuding and have been for quite some time. I usually duck out of the room when they start in on each other, but things have escalated of late. I am living at home this year because I haven’t found a job yet after graduating from college during the pandemic. I…

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College-age son needs lesson in fiscal responsibility

DEAR HARRIETTE: I never taught my son how to manage money. Now he is away at college, and it seems like he is always asking me to add money into his bank account. I see that he is not buying anything extravagant — mainly he buys snacks and things for school — but I cannot…

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Woman’s Family blames friend for accident

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend “Molly” and I were both injured in an accident, and her family is blaming me. Molly and I are both college seniors. A little while back, we were driving to school in the middle of the day when we were rear-ended by a drunk driver. It was a scary accident, to…

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Boyfriend won’t condem violent behavior

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been keeping up with a high-profile celebrity trial that deals with domestic violence between a man and a woman. My boyfriend and I were discussing the trial the other day over the phone. He was adamant about defending the male celebrity, even though he had been physically violent toward the female celebrity.…

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Happier reader still suffering from FOMO

DEAR HARRIETTE: For several years — beginning around the same time that the pandemic started — I was deeply depressed. I was unhappy with the way that I looked, my job, my finances and my relationship. For all of those reasons, I was very low-functioning. I did not go out with friends, I did not…

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Beachgoer wants to extend summer friendships

DEAR HARRIETTE: I made friends with a group of women this summer who were so kind. We have known each other for a while, but we bonded in a different way recently. Normally we only see one another during the summer in our beach community. I feel like I would like to stay in touch…

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Do-nothing siblings take credit for dad’s care

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have two siblings who live far away from the town we grew up in. I am the main caregiver for my ailing father. I live nearby, and naturally I assume the primary leadership role in making sure he’s cared for and goes to his doctors’ visits, sees me and my kids regularly,…

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Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole

Parents won’t allow teen to access social media DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m going into high school now, and my parents still won’t let me have my own social media account: no TikTok, Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter or In- stagram. They think it’s bad for me and unsafe. Although I agree in some respects, I feel like I’m…

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Co-workers ignore employee’s graduation party

DEAR HARRIETTE: I invited my co-workers to my graduation party, and none of them showed up. Now I want to resign. My co-workers have never made me feel welcome in the 10 months that I’ve been with our company. When I first started, I admired how close all of my co-workers were with one another.…

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