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Friend considers dropping negative woman

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have regarded an individual as a close friend since our elementary school days. However, it has come to my attention that her negative demeanor has led to others disliking her. Despite my unwavering defense of her in the past, I now find myself pondering the appropriateness of maintaining this friendship. After all…

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Recent grad looks for advice on interviewing

DEAR HARRIETTE: As a recent graduate student, the prospect of applying for jobs fills me with a great deal of anxiety, especially because of my struggles with stage fright and a tendency to stutter when faced with questions. These challenges have left me feeling uncertain about how to navigate the job application process effectively and…

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Student wants to change major despite mom’s wishes

DEAR HARRIETTE: As my graduation approaches, my mother has set her expectations for me to pursue a business course followed by a career in law. However, my true passion lies in filmmaking, a dream I have harbored for years. Despite excelling academically and being at the top of my class, I have always followed my…

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Grandchild feels guilty for not calling grandmother

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m feeling torn and guilty about something that happened recently. My grandma turned 80, and while I knew it was a significant milestone, I didn’t call her to wish her a happy birthday. The truth is, my grandma and I aren’t particularly close, and to complicate matters, she struggles with mental health issues…

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Formerly infatuated friend ready to move on

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been infatuated with someone for far too long — years, actually. Recently, though, I have come to see this man for who he is: an opportunist, a user, someone who thinks mostly about himself. This hurts to realize, but it also helps me create some distance. I heard from him recently,…

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Single person considers lowering lofty expectations

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve always had a clear picture in my mind of what I want in a partner and for my future. A recent conversation with a friend has left me questioning whether my standards are perhaps too high, especially considering my age. First, I’ve always imagined my engagement ring as a symbol of not…

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New college student having issues with roommate

DEAR HARRIETTE: As a first-year college student experiencing communal living for the first time, I am grappling with the challenges of sharing a room. I am increasingly frustrated with my roommate; after I granted her access to my belongings once, she consistently uses them. The same goes for my food and groceries, leaving me feeling…

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Friends don’t see eye to eye on family support

DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my closest friends recently tore me apart, citing the stark differences in our lifestyles and how we were raised. I come from an individualistic family where putting personal needs first is the norm, while she comes from a collectivist family where the emphasis is on the needs of the group. This…

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Shopper judged for simple clothing choices

DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I went to a high-end store wearing a simple dress, and I noticed that the sales lady did not seem eager to assist me. Despite politely requesting help, I was largely ignored while other customers who were dressed in more extravagant clothing were approached immediately. This experience made me feel like I…

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Family unimpressed with unemployed boyfriend

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been dating my boyfriend for eight months, and I think he might be the one I want to marry. I am 32 years old, and it feels well past due. My family, however, doesn’t approve of him at all. They believe he is unsuitable for me and have expressed their concerns about…

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