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Now-Engaged former beau reaches out

DEAR HARRIETTE: A few years back, I went on a number of dates with a man, but it didn’t turn into anything. We remained friends on social media, but we stopped communicating directly. I found out he was engaged about a year ago and congratulated him. Since that interaction, he has reached out to me…

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Boss uses employee as scapegoat

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boss dropped the ball and is blaming it on me. She was supposed to send out an internal email with an important deadline, but she never told anyone about it. She was sitting on the information for a while and didn’t let anyone know. Today, my colleagues and I got an urgent…

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Introverted roommate needs space to decompress

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a very talkative and outgoing roommate. I am a complete introvert, and social interaction can be very draining for me. Sometimes I do not want to be bothered at the end of a long day, but my roommate will still knock on my door and start casual conversations with me. I…

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Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole

DEAR HARRIETTE: I graduate with my bachelor’s degree next month. Most of my classmates are excited and ready to finally be done with school, but I am a nervous wreck about graduating. I have no direction as far as my career goes. I don’t have a dream job or career. I don’t have any job…

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Husband vents spleen in front of ffriends

DEAR HARRIETTE: My family and I spent the weekend with old friends — the first time we have ventured out to be with others since the pandemic started. It was a lovely visit in some ways, but one thing bothered me a lot. My husband and I have been fussing pretty intensely for as long…

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Reader upset at cleanliness of home

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have always been messy, but things have gotten a lot worse recently. I have been working overtime to try to make up for the shortfall during COVID-19, but I have also been working from home. I look around, and I am horrified by the clutter that has built up in my place.…

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Grieving employee feels unsupported by co-workers

DEAR HARRIETTE: I went through a very tough personal loss a few months ago and took bereavement leave from work for two weeks. My boss and supervisors were wonderful and understanding, but my co-workers didn’t seem to understand at all. I came back, and most of my co-workers seemed to be upset with me for…

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Reader questions relationship wtih friends

DEAR HARRIETTE: I share different secrets with different friends depending on my relationship with each of them. Not one of my friends knows all of my secrets. I have a friend I see only occasionally who just happens to know more about me than another friend I see twice a week. Is this wrong? Does…

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Woman transfers confidence from ex to friend

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend finally broke up with her neglectful boyfriend, but now she is fully leaning on me for emotional support. I have never known my friend when she was not in a relationship with her now-ex-boyfriend. They were incredibly codependent and toxic. I was pleading with her to leave the relationship for many…

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Parent keeps asking out teacher

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a teacher, and one of my student’s parents is constantly asking me on dates. I know that this is inappropriate, but I’m not exactly sure how to stop it. Nothing has crossed the line to where his advances have been creepy or vulgar. Also, I think that a part of me…

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